Shortly after noon last Friday, I came home feeling exhausted from my snow skiing class. While unloading all my stuff, I decided to check if anyone had called me on my handphone which was put on silent mode while I was occupied in class. Irene from Light Beckons had sent me a message. I opened my inbox to check. She had written….
“Hi I just read your post and felt pain on my inner left knee! Is that where you are hurting? Now I am walking with a limp. Have been getting other people’s pain lately, so weird!”
Walking with a limp???? Uh-oh!! Concerned, I contacted her. She was busy that day but here’s more of what she replied…
“Why am I feeling your pain? OMG! I quickly read through your post this morning before leaving for office, and as I walked out of the house, I felt pain on my inner left knee and instantly I thought, “Hey, that’s not mine, that’s Evelyn’s!”. The pain lasted till about lunch time (it happens only when I walk) and then it stopped. I didn’t do anything to strain my knee nor am I upset with anything … in fact, I’m very excited about my vacation.
Well, if you hop over to Irene’s site right now, you’d know that she flew off today for a holiday in China. I had asked Irene to share about her experiencing my pain on her blog. However when we last communicated last Friday, she was already busy with preparing for her vacation. She simply had no time to write and asked me to do so instead!! Well, she may want to pick up from this post when she gets back!!
A Coincidence In Timing
Do note the coincidence in timing. She was feeling my pain while reading my last post at exactly the same time when I was attending class. Also, the pain stopped towards lunchtime.
It was the snow plough turn that had me wincing in slight pain again during my class on Friday. Irene must have felt it then!! Of course I realized that I should have rested more days before going back for class. Frederic said I was “gutsy” to go back for classes less than 24 hours after my call to him.
How To Clear The Pain Energy
Surprised that Irene picked up on my pain to feel it herself? Well, an occurence like this is not unheard of. My personal friends who are energy healers have been sharing with me about their similar experiences. In fact, every now and then, we’d get a call from one of them as to whether any one in my family is getting a new physical pain such as a severe headache.
Here is what can be done, assuming if you are an empathic healer (like Irene) and have no idea what to do….
1) Determine if you need to help the person with the original pain. Clear this person of the pain using any healing modality (eg. EFT, The Sedona Method).
2) Or, if you determine that there is nothing you need to do, just say “clear cache _____ (Evelyn or whoever) in my knee”.
I’ve shared with Irene the above; so if needed, she can do the necessary. For her vacation, let’s wish her an easy climb up the Great Wall of China!! I remember it being quite a walk when I was there 4 years ago.
The Mind-Body-Spirit Connection; We Are One
Since last Friday, I have gone back for another snow skiing class. Frederic had made it possible for me to walk and bend my knees 100% effortlessly. It is only when there is add-on pressure for the snow plough turn that my knees continued to feel strained. Nevertheless, I am thankful to heal to this level so fast!!
My journey, as reflected in my recent knee issues and many of my experiences as shared on this blog, has allowed me to realize that I am more than my body. There is much that the mind and spirit can do!! If anything, I am a soul having a physical incarnation. Any physical symptoms of the body that show up in brokenness, disease or illness is an opportunity to know myself. To become aligned in wholeness again.
We are all more connected than we ever know! What happened to Irene with regards to my knee issues clearly illustrates this. We all parts to a Bigger Whole!! Essentially, We are One!
Energy also transcends both time and space. I remembered once when an inner knowing arose that a sudden pain I had belonged to one of my past lives. I was bringing the negative energectic imprint into my current lifetime!
The knowing of All that I Am is stored at Soul level. Every word, thought or action. My journey forward is to update my conscious memory, know my Real Identity and come into deep awareness of Universal Truths!
Your Sharing Please
1) Ever got the feeling that the migraines or stomach upsets that you had might not have been yours to begin with? What did you do to help yourself or the party involved?
2) Any thoughts to share about the mind-body-spirit connection? Do contribute in the comments below!
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When I used to work as a kinesiologist, there were a number of occasions where I found myself not only feeling the pysical pain, but also the emotional pain of my clients.
I think that when one is working so deeply and closely on all levels (physical, emotional, mental etc) with someone, there is a connection far greater than we can imagine. As soon as I realised the it wasn’t “my issue”, the pain would immediately disappear.
Sometimes when working with someone, the connection was so clear and almost tangible, that I could work without thinking, merely almost intuitively.
It makes you think how much we pick up and experience (both positive and negatvie) from the people around us.
Juliet
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Hi Evelyn,
On very rare occasions, I have felt the pain of both my children and my wife. Sometimes, it’s more of a “sense” that something is wrong – and I think it’s related to the deep connections I have with these people – family members…
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Evelyn, this is fascinating. I’m amazed at how closely we’re connected at an energetic level, as it manifests and affects us physically and emotionally, but I must confess, it no longer surprises me to see it happen.
Christopher
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As a reflexology practitioner this has happened to me before too. Now I know to protect myself as clients come in, but man the first time freaked me out. I still get energy transfers but they’re little. Like sinus ect. No pain…
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@Juliet, it’s interesting that once you realize that the pain is no longer yours, it completely disappears. Yes…it does make me think about how affected we can be by both positive or negative energy influences from all those around us.
@Lance, it sure seems that we are more tuned in when it comes to the vibes of our own family members!
@Christopher, like you, I am becoming less surprised with so much evidence around me about how deeply connected we all are in this Cosmos!
@jenn, it does seem that those in the healing profession seem to be more tuned in to the energies of others, isn’t it?
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You know I can always feel if people are not themselves or if they are in pain but this is when I’m around them or I’m near. I never really entertain the idea of feeling someone’s pain when they are remotely no where near me.
You got me thingking.
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I’m not aware of ever feeling someone else’s pain, but I do have a bad habit of feeling someone else’s emotions if they’re strong emotions and the person is nearby.
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That is so weird. I don’t think I’ve ever transferred physical pain from someone else to myself…
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@chris, it may be a good idea to practice some awareness when a sudden feeling of pain or emotions should arise. Tune into it and ask yourself if the pain is yours or not.
@Dot, I tend to avoid crowds myself because I find that I get giddy after awhile. I can’t shop for too long as a result. I’m wondering if it has anything to do with experiencing any negative energy buzz.
@Matthew, well…it’s definitely possible to experience someone else’s pain on your own body. However, by nature of what they do, you’d find that it’s the healers who experience it more.
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Hi Evelyn. This is so interesting! I did have a peculiar episode about 4 years ago just days before my mother’s death. I have had asthma my entire life, but as an adult it’s been pretty much dormant.
However, one evening I started having trouble breathing, for no apparent reason. It was bad enough that I had to go to a walk-in clinic to get some medicine. I almost died a couple of times as a child, due to complications from asthma so I learned to not fool around.
Anyway, it turned that very same evening my mother, clear across the country had just had a stroke. I’m pretty sure there was a connection there. She died two days later and since then, I’ve had no other asthmatic episodes. Makes a person think doesn’t it?
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I don’t feel physical pain from others, but I can sense some non-physical things — emotions and such — as other comments have noted. I can’t say it is something I’d want to experience!
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Hi Evelyn: I’ve heard of this happening to people, although I’ve never experienced it. I visualize an egg shape around me every morning and put a trellis around it filled with roses (with thorns) so that other people’s energy can’t affect me that much.
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I think it’s most common for intuitive empaths. (*sense,* *feel*)
From Sources of Power (Gary Klein), I’ve learned that a lot of intuition is pattern matching. Combine the knowledge base of patterns plus the emotional connection with family members and that might help explain why family members seems to have more intuitive empath experiences.
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Hi Evelyn,
I’m having some lower back pain that I’m hoping that you can transfer to Irene for me. I’d really appreciate it. Very interesting article. I had no idea that you guys were close friends!
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Hi Evelyn,
This is so interesting! A few weeks ago my daughter slightly sprained her knee at tumble time. I also experienced stabbing pain in the knee almost immediately after and for a few days after. I never have knee pain! I thought it strange at the time but did not really absorb the full association until reading your post. She is fine now thankfully and so am I!
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@Davina, thanks for sharing your story. Yes, coincidences like these just makes me think. I now question less if I am going crazy or something. My lingering doubts just get lesser with each personal experience I have.
@SpaceAgeSage, neither do I think I’d like to experience the physical pains of others. But I guess it comes with being in the healing profession or being an intuitive empath.
@Marelisa, what a great way to start your mornings!! I may just do some kind of visualization myself. I tend to do clearing after getting the bad vibes…kindof late huh?
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@J.D. Meier, thanks for the recommendation! I’ve not read a book or anything about empaths before. It’ll be interesting to find out more!
@Steve, are you serious about your back pains? Consider writing to Frederic (email address provided in my last post). His exercises are simple and drug-free, no harm trying!
Irene and I share so many similar interests that we often exchange notes and trade ideas
Oh yes…we have met up for dinner a couple of times!!
@Monica, you can follow the tips provided in this post if you find yourself experiencing a pain that is not yours. You may just be an empath.
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That is really interesting Evelyn – she could actually feel your pain just by reading your blogpost.
I have had a couple of experiences similar. I was on the way home on the school bus one day and suddenly I felt really ill and sick and I had a bad feeling there was something wrong at home. When I got home, my mother had been in a car crash. Luckily, she wasn’t badly injured but she was in shock and felt sick.
A few years later, I was in a cafe in the Lake District. My mother had gone to a hospital appointment with my grandmother. Suddenly, I felt really ill and had a bad feeling that something was wrong and I needed to go home at once. When I got there, I found that the doctor had told my grandmother she had cancer and given her less than 3 months to live.
I agree – these things definitely seem to confirm that we are one, as supposed to being seperate.
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“Transference” is what got me into the whole energy/spiritual development/intuitive world to start with! When I began working as a massage therapist, I felt every client’s pain within fifteen minutes of their session. I had to learn how to manage my energetic boundaries, and that’s how I got into energy work.
The thing is, taking on someone else’s pain (mental, emotional, physical, doesn’t matter) really doesn’t serve anyone, it just increases the amount of pain in the world. There’s a fine line between sensing (which when I do readings I certainly do) and taking on someone else’s “stuff.” Taking it on is inappropriate – who are we to think that we need to participate in someone else’s stuff?
Compassion and empathy are appropriate, of course. But we want to leave each person the dignity of their own experience without getting in the middle of it, energetically speaking. So, if we sense pain, that’s one thing. If we start walking around with it, we’ve probably crossed that line a while back.
Blessings,
Andrea
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Hi Evelyn,
My back is sore from lifting and carrying my baby, but it’s nothing serious. I was joking about Irene. She’s one of my favorite people on the net! But if I could somehow transfer my pain to one of my coworkers…
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I am definitely a novice in energy healing, but I have been practicing and taken some classes for about a year. About a month and a half ago, I was at a class where we practiced absentee healing (healing of a person who isn’t physically present). We thought of the person, and asked permission from their spirit to help them. I worked on a friend of mine who had recently moved a few states away. I hadn’t talked to him in a couple weeks. When I was healing, I got a terribly strong pain in the left side of my throat that lasted the rest of the night. The next day I texted my friend to ask if his throat had been hurting. He said it had been for the last few days, but he woke up that morning and it felt perfectly fine! I was happy to think I had something to do with his healing, but it was rather unfortunate that, instead of getting rid of the pain, I just transferred it to myself.
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I don’t think I’ve ever felt someone’s physical pain, but my dog does sense when I’m upset. She just seems to know when things are not right…perhaps she’s sensing energy. My horses can also sense when I’m not fully in control. Amazing.
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I’m a Reiki Master/Teacher, and I get this all the time. I also did as a Registered Nurse. However, we always learned that we have to protect ourselves. Otherwise, many therapists burn-out, continuously absorbing the energies of others. This I have seen a lot, and was almost on that path myself as I learned to work with energy, and separate that which was mine, and that which belongs to others.
We cannot take on things that belong to everyone else. It may be a sign that we practice not empathy, but sympathy, and if we heal it for them, they may not fully benefit from lessons that they need to learn about themselves, and their own healing. We can best help by supporting others to listen to their own signals, and self-heal.
This was a really neat post! ;o)
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I’ve experienced enough of my own thank you. I’m real grateful that I’m not that tuned into anyone. I have no doubt as to the mind/body connection.
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@Tom Volkar..
LOL. That made me giggle. It’s like, “I have enough of my own energies to deal with, thank you very much”!!..hehe ;o))
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@Cath, oh wow….your ability to sense things is amazing!! Of course, you wouldn’t want to sense the bad stuff!!
@Andrea, I agree that having more people taking on the same pain does not serve anyone any good. I probably have some lessons to learn due to a bad knee and the lessons are mine to go through. For the empath or the intuitive healer, it is best to clear the discordant energy as I’ve described or set up a boundary of non-interference.
@Steve, hahaha….if only we can aim who we want to transfer our pains to….!!
@Amanda, it’s amazing what distance healing can do to help our friends so far away! Do be careful about taking on their pain as well though….I don’t think it is necessary.
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@Squawkfox, it seems that animals can pick up emotions very easily!!
@Tamera, I agree that I wouldn’t wish anyone to take on my physical pain. The role of the energy healer is to facilitate the process of healing. At the root of it all, it is to the patient’s advantage to be fully committed to his/her own personal growth, development and healing.
@Tom, for a while I thought you’d also be offering to shoulder the sufferings of all your students as they go through any pain agony in setting up their new businesses…LOL!!
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No, my pain’s pretty-much always been my own. Luvkily, I don’t have too much of it, just the odd migraine now and then.
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Hey Evelyn,
I’m back! Thanks for writing about this … I was half joking when I asked you to write a post on my behalf, but wow, you really did it – you’re a hardworking girl!
I had a good trip to Beijing and my knees were pain-free throughout, so don’t worry about it.
Other than the occasional sudden migraines I got when I was in crowded places earlier this year, this knee incident has got to be one of the most bizarre experiences for me so far. I have heard of empaths and healers talking about these things, but experiencing it myself physically was really really weird! I’m learning to block and clear these things as they come – seems to be working well now, yay!
I know I’m really late with my comments on this post, and by now you may have already switched to “DND” mode for your vacation. Nevertheless, I wish you and your family a safe and very enjoyable vacation. Happy holidays!
@Steve – naughty naughty! I may think of you the next time I feel a back pain coming … hehehe.
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What is the medical term for this? I have acctually been taking pain from the people in my life that are close to me. I was in class a few weeks ago and suddenly got this incredible pain deep in my leg and started screaming! Someone helped me down to the nurse come to find out later that night one of my best friends had nearly broken his leg in basketball practice. He was so amazed (and proud of how manley he felt) telling me how he felt no pain at all. I just laughed and let him believe he was tough.
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Katelin,
I believe the term is “empath”. Check it out!
Evelyn
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When I was a little girl, a friend of mine (Jack) and I went through physical and sexual abuse by the hands of our baby sitters, we use to be separated when it was happening and over the course of a few months we began to feel what the other was feeling. That was when we were 5 all the way to age 9. We are now 21, and he has gone through a lot of psychological problems, he is depressed and often suicidal. The part that bothers me the most is that I feel what he feels, when he feels it. And we are not always in contact with each other. It scares me, and it gets worse the farther we are apart. When he is depressed, I feel unbearably sad, for no reason. When he tried to kill himself the first time, he over dosed on pills, and I felt so sick I was taken into the ER. When he was taken into the institution, I began to feel claustrophobic all the time, no matter where I was, and I didn’t know for the first week he had even been committed. Now that he is out I feel what he feels almost constantly, and he’s told me it’s the same for him, when I am sad he feels the pain of it, and when I am sick (such as now) he also become ill. I wish we didn’t have this and I don’t want to know what he feels, and I don’t want him to know either. Sometimes it is useful, like when one of us needs someone we go to each other and the pain goes away, but when he is in pain, serious pain like when he slit his wrists I would rather not know. Because if/when he succeeds in killing himself as he has many times I am afraid that I might die too. Is this just something in our minds? Like weird coincidences? Or is it something else? Is there really such a strong connection between us? Or are we completely insane? Because we’ve tested this many times over the phone.
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A couple weeks ago, I woke up in the middle of the night. My right knee hurt a little bit. I got up to look at it and saw a little bruise. No biggie. I bang into crud all the time. I went back to sleep, and about an hour later I woke to the most excruciating pain I’ve ever felt in my life, running from my right knee to right hip. I didn’t know what was going on. I didn’t want to wake my boyfriend or child, so I went to the couch and agonizingly writhed around and cried quietly til they woke up. My boyfriend offered to take me to the hospital. We went, they took some tests with inconclusive results. I was given a pain shot that did NOTHING. They sent me home with prescriptions for pain pills. The pain didn’t go away. It intensified and traveled from my leg to my lower back, through my spine, and into my neck and shoulders (and how? these were the super pills!). I could hardly move at that point. I went to the ER a few days later and they had no idea what was wrong. The doctor looked at me like I was faking, but he gave me pain pills anyway. Again, they did nothing. A few days later, I went to my regular doctor. She thought it was Lyme’s, so I was given another blood test. The initial one came back positive, but the confirmation test came back negative. Still no answers… The pain then moved to my hip/pelvis. I hadn’t slept for weeks at this point!
A few days later, I got a message from one of my BEST friends in Texas. I didn’t know it, but she had been in a motorcycle accident, right around the time I started hurting. She broke her pelvis and injured her back. We talked on the phone for about an hour and told each other what was going on. That same night, my pain was gone. Completely.
And now I’m so glad I was directed to this forum. Throughout my life I’ve had many, shall we say, “energy experiences,” but none quite like this where it manifested the pain of another into my own body. I’d like to learn to control my own energy so that I can help others- and myself. Often, I will think of a person I haven’t seen or heard from in a while, and they become my central focus of thought. Bada-bing, I get a phone call from them or an email message out of nowhere that same day. I talked about never getting coupons in the mail anymore and had a “weird” feeling when I said it. The next day, a boat load of coupons. Etc, etc… How do I focus? Any resources you could direct me to? I feel a little perturbed that I don’t understand what’s going on sometimes. I can control myself and tune in when it comes to uncased(?) energy, like that of the deceased, but living energy has me thrown for a loop!
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