(Photo by swilton on Wakeboarding, my favorite weekend activity when I was in my 20s. Could I have hurt my knee since back then?)

It sounds like an outrageous claim?!!! A reader to my site by the name of Frederic commented on my last post, saying that he was able to remove chronic pain with hands-on healing in as little as one minute. In my last post on Emotional Secrets to the Physical Body, I had written about my knees failing on me, triggered by a series of snow skiing classes.

With a claim like that, I was intrigued. He is guaranteeing that he can cure me from a distance too? Not one to miss out on a great opportunity, I wrote to him. If you suffer from physical pains, then do read on to find out more about his diagnosis of my knees, how he drastically reduced my pains and to determine what you can do for yourself……

The Comments That Got Me Intrigued

For easier reading, I am copying what he wrote in his first comment to my last post…

It is beautiful to see that some of you have made the connections between your perceived reality and your physical reality. It takes courage to look at ourselves and honestly searching for the roots of our issues.

Long time ago I created the emotional site chart of the body. For each painful area and organ of the body, which includes “dis-eases” there is an emotional or false perception of reality. Healing is the removal of this false belief, it can take just a few seconds (which is called miracles by those who do not understand) or a few minutes. Just two weeks ago a friend called me with an unbearable back pain which she had sustained all day. I told her that I had only three minutes since my baby was due for her bottle. There is no waiting for a hungry baby:) After addressing the issue it was gone in three minutes.

Your knee issues are more precisely related to specific struggles. I have many times assisted in the removal of chronic pain in just a few minutes, sometimes in as little as one minute. I don’t want to bore anyone in the explanation of the process which is so simple.

My goal is to help and teach others to be in control of themselves and their destinies. Healing is the first step to undertake to have self-ownership, and in this I wish you all the bliss of self discovery.

The truth: You cannot be more perfect then by being yourself. Healing is the process of removing everyone else affecting you and embracing the truth. With love, Frederic

Frederic’s Diagnosis Of My Knees And Steps For Healing

(I emailed Frederic a picture of my left knee, describing the exact location of the pain. Frederic’s instructions are as follows…please note that I am not sure if the same set of instructions apply to all…perhaps Frederic can answer this question…..)

First, check your knees, score the level of pain before reading on.

LEFT KNEE PAIN on a scale of 1 to 10
RIGHT KNEE PAIN on a scale of 1 to 10

Let’s start with the cause and connections. It needs to make sense to you to do the healing yourself since I can not do it for you. READ AND LISTEN TO YOUR HEART ECHOING TRUTH OR NOT. Re-read each sentence twice very carefully absorbing the meaning.

The most pain being your left knee the cause is rooted in:

1. Being pulled by the past, yet everything about you wants to embrace the present and a new vision for yourself. The pain reflects the struggle to get away, change directions. Something, someone is holding you back and it takes a lot of emotional energy to get away.

The truth: Just know that you are winning, you are feeling freer everyday, it is a fact and it shows by your actions, your success in touching people.

TAKE THREE DEEP BREATHS AND SIGH MEANINGFULLY. RE-READ THE TRUTH

2. There might be someone very close to you for whom you feel responsible and there is a struggle with it. I want to say a child or a parent. On this one I think you are faced with circumstances not controlled by you uniquely. Stand your ground, do not compromise and be courageous. GROW IN CONFIDENCE.

The right knee pain is related to the left only by the weight you feel, or more precisely the sense of obligation to grow and move forward to claim your life and realize your vision.

The truth: in you are the seeds of freedom already growing and nothing can stop them, you, to shine. You already have done most of the work but still feel as if you need to fix more of yourself. You don’t. There is nothing wrong with you, only right, just embrace it.

RE-READ THE TRUTH. TAKE THREE DEEP BREATHS AND SIGH MEANINGFULLY.

TEST YOUR KNEES AGAIN USING THE SCALE OF 1 TO 10.

First Round Of Q&A

Evelyn: Thanks for your response. My apologies for taking so long to reply. I am about 12-13 hours ahead of you, in case you are not aware that I come from Singapore (a city island in Asia).

Frederic: I am from France originally but I write to you from Knoxville, Tennessee in the U.S. I have traveled to many countries but have never been to Asia. You do not need to apologize for the time delay.

Evelyn: When I woke up this morning, I still had remaining pains that continued on my left and right knee. As I walked, I could feel as if my bones were shifting and not quite fixed together (not sure if you know what I mean).

Frederic: Yes I understand. You may have either torn ligaments or they are loose. Regardless of the physical conditions they can heal.

Evelyn: I tried out what you suggested. So I started the exercise with a left knee pain score of 7. For a while, nothing seemed to have changed. I was sitting down by the PC to follow your instructions. Then, I decided to try walking. I did feel better!!

However, as I walked more and more, the pains came back when I moved my legs at certain angles. Still, there is no denying that the pains were very much reduced. I cannot fully stretch out my left leg but it is definitely much better than before. I also found that as I continue to repeat your statement to release, it helps.

Frederic: The truth wipes out the cause of struggle which creates weakness and in-jury. The statement is only the truth, the real you. Next to finish the healing process you need to do something physical. It is like signing a contract with yourself that you are anew and reborn with a new identity, the better you.

Evelyn: Theoretically and consciously, I am not sure whether I agree with your deduction that someone is holding me down. If anything, it is myself. All blocks to greater success or becoming a fuller person is self-generated. So yes…I am working on myself to break any self-imposed limits.

Frederic: Be gentle with yourself. Yes all blocks come from a perceived reality for which you have controlled but you have been conditioned to think a certain way or grabbed on the emotions of your parents as we all have. Part of these emotions and hurtful events conditioned you to respond in wanting to find your own voice.

The greatest challenge for you is to allow yourself to feel not to analyse. You are working on yourself and I applaud your courage and determination but why making it a fight? The discord will dissolve itself as you embrace the truth about who you are.

Evelyn: My diagnosis is that I have forgotten to stretch sufficiently before my snow skiing classes, inadequate exercise, and my initial not wanting to attend classes.

Frederic: The weakness wasn’t created by snow skiing it was already there waiting to manifest itself. Yes every pain is an opportunity to find out something new of ourselves and to grow in freedom. That is all they are, opportunities.

Evelyn: What is this form of healing modality called? It seemed pretty similar to EFT or the Sedona Method. However in your case, you have linked the part of the body directly to the emotions that are blocked.

Frederic: This is just a very basic approach to healing and becoming free. This is just a little step in the process. I am not familiar with any other methods. My life pursuit is to remove the cause of pain and give the tools to be in control of our destinies, by showing the way. Healing is just a speck in the process, which facilitate the spiritual journey. Pain is a great distraction to our journey.

Remaining Exercises To Complete Recovery Process

Frederic also required me to perform another series of exercises for permanent emotional release and some stretching. My initial scoring of my knee pains went down from 7 to almost nil with following his set of instructions, during the phone call.

Here are excepts of the call and the Q&A that followed thereafter….

Evelyn: I hate to admit it but I am sensing my reluctance to score a zero.

Frederic: You will need to completely release all your negative emotions and to let go, in order to get it down to zero. When breathing out, visualize a complete release. Be ready to embrace a new You! The skepticism is natural in most people.

Evelyn: Still I need to thank you for how you’ve assisted me. You have helped me to drastically reduce (or eliminate) any remaining pain. Do you offer consultations? How can people contact you?

Frederic: Thank you for doing this, it will impact many people. If you would like let’s just use my name at this point. I do not sell products other than personal spiritual and physical growth and self help tools through private consultation. Eventually, I hope to offer workshops.

My Review

“Pain is an illusion created by an emotion which is also an illusion, as nothing can be more perfect than who we are when we are free.
— Frederic”

Thanks to Frederic, my knees made a huge jump in improvement. I am not sure if I agreed with the exact deduction of my problems. I certainly do not have anyone with whom I feel obliged to or overly responsible for. Neither is there someone who is holding me back. If anything, all limits are self imposed.

I went along with his suggestions nonetheless. Strangely, whatever he suggested I do, appeared to work. I realized that I would score my pain differently each half of the day or when I just awake in the morning. But my scores are decidedly lower since seven hours ago when I made the call with him. It is almost nil for most part and at odd angles, I score any knee pain to below 5s.

The conversation with him also made me recall about Louis Hay’s work in You Can Heal Your Life. I have lent out my single copy to a girlfriend months ago and forgotten all about it!

He advised more rest, however. “By the way it will take three days to completely remove the physical trace of pain and emotions from your knees, and a few weeks for the shape of your knees to change.”

So it is still early days yet. With each series of emotional healing whether by Frederic’s method, EFT or karmic cleansing, I believe that I have gained much ground in letting go much of the dense emotions. Well, let’s see if I make it back for snow skiing classes soon enough. Once again, wish me luck!!

Your Feedback Please

1) Do you any thoughts about the method of healing suggested by Frederic?

2) If you have a specific pain issue regarding a particular body part, how about posting it here? As I have found out, there are no prizes for being shy!! You have to ask in order to receive. Frederic appeared out of nowhere to offer me another perspective in emotional release. I’m betting that Frederic will be nice enough to respond to what you need to do for greater relief *wink*

Latest Update!!!
Thanks to all who have posted about their health issues here. Frederic has kindly consented to being contactable at the following email address Frederic-USA [at] bellsouth.net . If he has not responded to the your questions, please write to him. I’m more than happy to host the comments here but it makes more sense to contact him directly. Let me know how else I can be of assistance!! All the best to all you lovely folks!!

(Photo by superfantastic on flickr)

Tears started to well at the corner of my eyes. Six needles were being inserted into various meridian points on my left knee. With each application, I felt a rush of blood or energy flow draining away from my knee all the way down to the bottom of my feet. My visit on Saturday morning to the Traditional Chinese Medicine Doctor or sinseh was not quite what I was expecting. It was my first acupuncture session. I have never injured myself before, despite being engaged in a number of extreme watersports in the past.

The ligaments to my knees had been “strained” or injured due to a series of snow skiing lessons I have been taking over the past couple of weeks. Just prior to the acupuncture session, Dr Zhou had also used tui na; a traditional form of Chinese massage that had me crying aloud in pain.

The heat of a lamp was directed over the needles as I laid on the bed immobilized. My legs felt numb. While waiting for half hour to pass, I started to examine my fears. The prick of a single needle was but an instant. Were my tears due to physical or emotional stress? I could sense a cloud of dense emotions pervading over me.

Snow Skiing Fears

In preparation for an upcoming trip to Hokkaido in Japan, I had been taking snow skiing classes. While I have mastered skiing on water years ago, I have never tried it on snow. I realized that conquering the slopes introduced a new set of fears for me. It had been a long time, a good 8 years since the birth of my elder girl, in venturing beyond the gym.

These were the fears that I identified: Fear of falling. Fear of heights. Fear that signing on for extra classes would mean taking more time away from my work. Fear of not being able to control my skis. Fear of crashing into anyone in my path down the slope. Fear conjured over the thought of not being able to avoid a tree on the ski slopes in Japan!!

I felt helpless each time when I fell down, as it meant that I needed assistance from the coach. There were a number of times when I was “suicidal”, screaming all the way downhill as I could not stop my skis. Then, there were others when I was stuck mid-slope, unable to move or maneuver my ski. I was quite a comical sight!!

Needless to say, I did not enjoy my lessons very much. The coach identified the problem to be one of inadequate practice. Due to an otherwise overbooked schedule, I could not go often enough for lessons.

Initially, I complained bitterly. I had every reason to believe that my upcoming trip to Japan would be one vacation I would not enjoy. Gradually, as I reflected over my poor attitude, it hit upon me that fears arising from my snow skiing trips were providing me a perfect opportunity for more self healing.

So I jumped right into it. Every night for two weeks, I used EFT to address any fear in falling or of heights for my younger daughter and I. My elder daughter had no problems going down the slope but my younger girl was facing a hard time too. While I observed improvements in confidence levels, the state of my body gradually worsen.

With a series of bad falls, I started to experience “bad” knees. Knees that refused to obey my commands. Knees that were painful as I climbed stairs, whether up or down. Knees that I could hardly bend.

Unlocking Further Secrets Of My Knees

After the acupuncture session and over the last two days, my knees felt weak. My left knee especially was even more painful than before. Dr Zhou had warned me that it would take a few days to recover. Not exactly good news since that meant that I had to stay indoors and unable to do what I had wanted done over the weekend.

With time on my hands while I took a rest, I began to wonder if there was more negative stuff to my knees that I had not uncovered. Could there be a root fear that I was not previously aware of?

Well, I was right!! To begin with, the results of my investigation showed that I was dealing with a myriad of fears. I discovered that my left knee was storing the following emotions:

Depressed. Disgusted. Doubt. Exhausted. Fear. Hurt. Immobilized. Indignation. Loneliness. Loveless. Morbid. Needy. Offended. Shame. Stagnant. Suppressed. Unprepared. Unreliable. Unworthy. Victimized. Wary. Wilful. Woeful. Abandoned. Apprehensive.

And the root of it all was – A Fear of Aging!

(Photo by Eddie 07 on Flickr)

I was fearful of growing old physically and becoming dependent on others. I began to recall how I have always thought of not wanting to end up like the many old folks I have seen, unable to walk, being physically immobile and needing assistance from their family members.

I also realized how my focus is on the lack, the not-wanting. My knee had behaved like I was already 60 or 70, in a similar position to one of the elderly folks I have come across.

I would not have thought that going for snow skiing classes would invoke anything related to aging, dying and death. Well, apparently, it did, at the deeper layers for me!

Wish Me Luck

I used a combination of EFT, soul and karmic cleansing, and chios healing (performed by my girlfriend) to remove the dense energies of dark emotions from my knees. As all energy work takes up to 21 days for effects to permanently settle, I will have to wait to see what happens when I come down the slopes of Rusutsu Resort in Hokkaido Japan in another few weeks time.

In the meantime, my pain had subsided although it is not completely gone. I also have another two more appointment sessions with Dr Zhou to complete.

Do wish me luck!!

Your Thoughts Please

Acupuncture. Ever tried acupuncture? Let me know how it was for you. Acupuncture as I know it, is not supposed to be painful. Hence, it was likely that I was dealing with more of a perceived pain than is actually the case!

Root Causes of Physical Problems. How far do you go in terms of self healing? Do you simply rely on Western medicine to cure your symptoms? Or do you agree with the idea that healing our physical body is not quite complete without a look into our negative emotions?

(Photo by foreverphoto)

Guilty as Charged

Down the hammer goes! The jury has reached a decision. You wait for what feels like eternity. You have an inkling on what the verdict will be. And you are right. A judgement is passed: You are “guilty as charged”.

Such may be the scenerio that is being played out in your mind as you wrestle with guilt over some of your darkest secrets. I didn’t quite know what to expect, when I asked for confessions in my last post. However, I’m sure glad that a few of you plucked up the courage to share them. I also noted that there are others who chose to play it safe and not reveal their worst ones.

I began to wonder whether some of you are experiencing a general underlying negative emotion or more, beneath the memory of your secrets: Remorse? Grief? Shame? Sadness? Loss of face? My husband helped me with the magic word that summed up a majority of them – Guilt. So join me in today’s discussion on guilt down memory lane.

Guilt, Regret & Remorse: A Goodbye Kiss

They went to a party and started to drink,
No one ever stopped to think.
Soon it was time for them to depart,
They chose to drink, it wasn’t smart.
They thought going fast would be great,
By the time he pressed the brake, it was too late.
They swerved and smashed into a rail,
Three of them hurt, one to jail.
She lay on the road like a broken doll,
They needed help, who would call?
Tubes and machines everywhere,
Flowers and cards from those who care.
He kisses her silently and sheds a tear,
Her time to go is almost here.
They were together for quite awhile,
Those who saw them together couldn’t help but smile.
She was his baby, he was her life,
They were destined to be husband and wife.
Now it was over as quick as a blink,
Her life at an end, because of a drink.
She chokes and takes her final breath,
Then closes her eyes and accepts death.
He starts to cry, and whispers her name,
But she is gone, a drink to blame.

-Unknown
What is Guilt?

I investigated into guilt and came up with these explanations:

1. Guilt is an energetic state that is very heavy and dense in negativity. You put yourself in this state because of what you have done or should not have done. There is an ethical and moral standard that you are measuring yourself up against. It is driven by your conscience.

2. According to Wikipedia, “Guilt is the fact, state, or verdict (by a court or other tribunal), of an offence, crime, violation, or wrong committed, especially against moral or penal law. Guilt is also a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person realizes or believes – whether justified or not – that he or she has violated a moral standard and is responsible for that violation. It is closely related to the concept of remorse.”

3. Guilt is a feeling of regret and obligation for not having done what is right.

4. It is an expression of remorse, shame and loss.

5. It is a form of self inflicted punishment that you have been irresponsible for someone else’s unhappiness or disaster.

6. It may also drive you to take irrational actions to compensate for your so called “oversight” or “past mistakes”.

A Baggage of Time; An Attack On Yourself

“Guilt is anger directed at ourselves.”

— Peter McWilliams

Guilt can cause much misery. You become separate from becoming a more loving being. When someone else confronts and attacks you, your natural defence mechanism kicks in. However, in the case of guilt, you are really attacking yourself. You have no defence and you punish yourself unnecessarily. If you do not deal with your guilt, you run the risk of feeling defeated, dispirited and never truly happy.

In the last post, many of the confessions made come from events in the past. By far, most of what are shared are secrets that are not unforgiveable. However, it is possible with deep layers of guilt, and in your darkest period, some of you may take the drastic choice of giving up on yourself. You refuse to honor and love your inner child. Instead, you judge yourself harshly, withdraw in sadness and put on a face that masks the misery inside. In moments of insanity, you may even channel feelings of guilt to anger, making sure that no one around is having a good time. Ultimately, the person who really suffers most is You!

Hence, take a step back and rake up your memory. Ask yourself if you are carrying a baggage of time. Investigate as such:

1. Are you letting guilt experienced from a previous relationship ruin your current one?

2. Is guilt from a childhood trauma causing you to act up in fear, experience insecurity or causing you to shut down?

3. Is guilt the reason why you are making more allowances to a specific party?

4. Are your frequent bouts of anger really an expression of guilt?

5. Is guilt the driving force of your major life decisions?

And if you are truly experiencing guilt, know that the past is a thing of yesterday. You cannot change what you have done. There is no point letting your past affect your today or tomorrow. Where you have found that you made a mistake, remember that you are not perfect either. In fact, it will be a good idea to embrace your past as a part of yourself.

Guilt At The Deathbed

Guilt does no more than bring down your energy vibes. Of course, you can choose to ignore it all your life; but realise this: Guilt is often a state that is often experienced on the deathbed. No one says it better than Coco Chanel, the famous French Fashion designer (1883-1971)….

“Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.”

It sounds ominous but it is a fact. You cannot guarantee that you have all the time in the world to deal with guilt.

Well, a good way to getting started is to share in a confession or in the comments below. There is no better time than doing it in a group! You may be surprised to find that the little secret that you’ve been keeping is perhaps not the most scandalous of all! Read the following observation…

“Where all are guilty, no one is; confessions of collective guilt are the best possible safeguard against the discovery of culprits, and the very magnitude of the crime the best excuse for doing nothing.”

— Hannah Arendt (German born American Philosopher and Political scientist. 1906-1975)

Ever felt inadequate as a parent? I know I have. Even after some 7 years of parenting, I still get pangs of insecurity or not knowing how best to deal with a trying situation with my kids.

In fact, I decided to address these negative emotions during my therapy sesson with my EFT practitioner, today. Things have been pretty stressful for a few days in a row when my kids took turns to make unreasonable demands. The negative emotions were easily neutralized using EFT tappingin seconds. (Emotional healing work has been less of a strain and more of a breeze these days, now that I have cleared many of my negative blocks.)

My stress had also brought back a flood of memories. I have always wanted to have kids but nothing quite prepared me for the vast responsibility that comes with being a parent.

When I became a mother for the first time, I was extremely stressed. I did not know what to do or how to take care of a newborn. My husband was constantly away on business trips and I was left pretty much on my own. My mother dropped by often, when she noted that I needed help with Hui. But her babysitting skills were limited. When I was a child, I was taken care of by a helper. She had little prior experience with Hui being her first grandchild.

At that point in time, I had also decided to leave a full time career. On reflection, I must have suffered from post natal blues. I was depressed for a good many months after the birth of my daugther.

I got smarter as the years went by. I drew up schedules for my kids, so that they knew when is reading time and when is playtime. We set up certain guidelines so that my kids knew what is expected of them. Still, there will be situations that will come up unexpectedly with my kids and that require some ingenuity in dealing with them.

I recognise that I may get this wave of inadequacy every now and then. But the technique I can apply, when faced with two unyielding kids, is EFT tapping. I also make it a point to set aside time daily in quiet meditation and reflection. If things do get overwhelming and I cannot deal with the stress on my own, I make a note to deal with the specific negative emotions for my next therapy session. Parenting may still be one of the toughest job on earth, but it has gotten a whole lot easier!