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Luminary Interview: Tess Marshall – The Bold Life

by Evelyn on February 23, 2012

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

In today’s post, I am featuring an interview with Tess Marshall from The Bold Life. She has a lot to teach us on fear and living boldly.

Q. Can you share what is your overall message about your site?
A. My overall message is that you don’t have to live in fear. Unless we are in immediate danger, fear is an illusion or a story we tell ourselves. It’s usually a story or a negative expectation of the future. It’s just as easy to choose a positive expectation or to anticipate good things happening.

[My Comment: Since starting on my personal development journey, I have learned to stop running away but to address some of my worst fears. Oh yes, I have found out that fear is pretty much a story I tell myself. I am glad that overcoming fear has led me to experience tremendous freedom.]

Q. What challenges have you gone through that has now contributed to who you are today?
A. My biggest challenge thus far was getting married and pregnant when I was 17, a senior in high school. Our only plan was “love!” I was the mom to four little girls at age 22. My third pregnancy was twins. We really didn’t have a plan until we began seeing a counselor 10 years later. That was a turning point. We finally had the tools needed to move forward in a healthy and happy manner. There is nothing more difficult than raising children. Nothing! I was only 38 when the twins graduated from high school. After we raised the girls we felt like we were on easy street. We still do!

[My Comment: I can certainly imagine how it must be like for you to be a young mother to four children. I agree, it is not easy raising children. There is so much to do and take care of on an everyday basis. Wait till you know how it is like to be raising children in Singapore. The environment can be very pressurizing. It's great that things have become much easier for you!]

Q. What led you to create your site, The Bold Life?
A. I started my blog to promote my writing and speaking. My family and friends always told me I needed to write my stories down to help others. My family and friends always told me I was the boldest person they knew. I saw myself as a person on a mission to do what I needed to do in life, without excuses. Fear can be used as an excuse to stay comfortable and in a comfort zone.

[My Comment: You are lucky to have friends and family point out your strengths for you. Good one with the mission!]

Q. To live boldly is to be able to overcome fear. Can you share more about overcoming fear?
A. I think the easiest way to overcome fear is to become aware of the present moment and breathe deeply. Breathing properly has a profound effect on us. I also think writing down our fears in a journal is powerful. You can’t erase what you’re unwilling to face. It’s a process where fear loses its power and you gain a better perspective.

[My Comment: I certainly find journaling a very revealing process. It is also a good releasing method for me.]

Q. What do you think is the worst fear of all and how do you think we can overcome it?
4. The worst fear is one of feeling unloved and separate. All human beings have three things in common. We all want to give love, receive love, and know that we matter. We can overcome this fear by loving ourselves first. It’s something we work on until the day we die.

[My Comment: I didn't realize that feeling unloved would be the worst fear. But now that you have pointed it out, I see it. I totally resonated with what you've just shared about loving ourselves first :-) ]

Q. Let’s delve more into overcoming fear through boldness. What do you think are the elements of boldness? How can I deal with fear?
A. A favorite quote on fear: I have accepted fear as a part of life – specifically the fear of change…. I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back. ~Erica Jong

It’s exactly what we need to do!

[My Comment: Hey, I like that quote too! Thumbs up!]

Q. What keeps you inspired everyday?
A. My family, friends, and readers of my blog keep me inspired. I think it’s an exciting time to be alive. We can all help co-create a new world. I think the old ways are crumbling because they don’t work. Some would rather fight for the old ways because at least those are known. To move forward, in faith that the best is yet to come takes courage. That’s what inspires me.

[My Comment: I certainly need to practice more faith myself. I am glad to have you as a friend for support.]

Q. One last question. I think that fear is very much part of what a lot of us go through everyday. Yet, fear can cripple us into not doing what is necessary for our growth. So my question is how can we incorporate more boldness into our daily lives?
A. My new course, “Take Your Fear and Shove It,” is designed to provide you with what to do and how to do it, in order to be bold, play big and shine bright.

I raised my family, I saved my marriage, became a successful therapist, a coach, an author, a professional speaker, a writer…I achieved things I never would have thought possible.

This course is the culmination of everything I’ve learned. For those of you who want to know how I did it, this course is for you! Begin today, with one small step in the right direction, and the tools to make new choices that support you in transcending your dreams.

[My Comment: You have certainly hit it right with your new course. For those with challenges on addressing fear, do check the Fearless Course out!]

Love and Light Luminary Bio
Tess Marshall runs the site The Bold Life. She hopes to inspire her readers to follow their heart, unearth their bold, and create a meaning and love-filled life. She holds a Masters in Counseling Psychology but her real knowledge has come from experiencing life with her heart wide open.

Any Questions or Comments about Living Boldly?
If you have got any questions or thoughts about living boldly, please write them in the comment box below.

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rob white February 23, 2012 at 11:35 pm

Hi Evelyn,
Tess is a a dynamic force, to be sure! She has seen first hand the folly of NO and WOE, and has transmuted her wishes into strong convictions. She has done incredible inner work and has an authentic message of empowerment to share with the world. Her level of awareness empowers her to help others see themselves as they truly are… astonishingly beneficent beings!

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Tess The Bold Life Reply:

Rob,
You are very generous with your praise. You make my heart sing and I appreciate it. xo

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Evelyn Reply:

Wow…that is incredible testimonial for you from Rob! Way to go, Tess!

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Jason Fonceca February 24, 2012 at 6:07 am

Awesome stuff, Evelyn – I’ve had Tess recommended to me before (I think by Craig McBreen), cool to get insight into her stuff here.

Thanks for this!

P.S. I love how you add a “My Comment” section :)

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Tess The Bold Life Reply:

Hi Jason,
I don’t know who recommended you but thanks for leaving a comment. I appreciate it and do hope you check out my blog. I’m grateful.

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Lance February 24, 2012 at 6:55 am

Evelyn and Tess,
Great to read this interview!

Tess,
You have inspired me since the first days our paths crossed – and you continue to do that today. And it’s you – LIVING out these ideas you talk about. And that’s a great way to move beyond fears and into something much greater.

Keep shining – both of you!!

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Tess The Bold Life Reply:

Lance

Thanks my friend. I think I feel even closer to the people I meet in person. I not only got to meet you but your son and cousin over breakfast. Lucky me!

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Sammybunny February 24, 2012 at 10:30 am

Thank you so much, Evelyn, for commenting on my site! It was such an honor for me to have you read my post and I wanted to thank you for all of the encouraging and inspirational posts on your own site. Your blog has been very, very helpful to me in my journey to self-love and self-alignment. It means so much to me that you took the time to comment on my post and encourage me! I’m looking forward to all of your future posts!

~Sammybunny

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Sammybunny,

I am thrilled to learn that you have gained some insights into your own journey from reading my posts.

I have to thank you for your validation. It is always wonderful to receive encouragement and support for my own path too.

I look forward to sharing more of what I have learned!

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn

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David Stevens February 25, 2012 at 11:00 am

Hi Tess & Evelyn,
Thankyou. Keep the “Boldness” coming.
be good to yourselves
David

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Evelyn Reply:

More Boldness to you, David!
Evelyn

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Lisa H. February 27, 2012 at 7:21 am

Fear is a big one for me or should I say fear was a big one for me. Fear held me back from doing so much in 2011–fear of success, fear of failure, fear of the unknown. Simply put, I got sick of being afraid; that’s why I love the title to your course so much. 2012 has been about taking my fear and shoving it.

Nice to know more about you, Tess.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Lisa,

I really need to do a Fear series. I have all kinds of fears too and I have learned so much from facing them. It’s great that you like the sound of Tess’s course. It may do you good, if you find yourself constantly stuck.

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn

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Galen Pearl February 27, 2012 at 1:22 pm

I love this interview for many reasons. First, I’m always happy to learn more about Tess, a blogger I greatly admire. Second, I love how the interview starts — We don’t have to live in fear. So much of my life transformation over the last years has been about exactly that, moving from a life based in fear to a life based in joy. And third, I loved learning for the first time about Tess’s young motherhood. It was so comforting and encouraging, because my youngest daughter just had a baby at 19. She is such a good mom, but she is so young, so I love hearing about young moms who made good! Thanks for a terrific interview.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Galen,

It’s great that you enjoyed the interview. But of course, now that you’ve mentioned it, I can see how you can feel encouraged by Tess’s journey as a young mother. Tess certainly turned out brilliant! She will make an excellent role model.

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn

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Joy March 2, 2012 at 6:37 am

Evelyn, Thank you for featuring Tess!

Tess,
I love your message! Each time I read one of your interviews I find a treasure to take with me. Today was the Erica Jong quote. I know you live it which is inspiring to me as I gently stretch beyond my own “edges”. Thank you for all that you reflect and share–very life enriching and affirming!

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