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How to Practice Loving Self-Acceptance

by Evelyn on June 3, 2013

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain

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Many of us long to be accepted for who we are. And so, we go about seeking validation and approval from others. However, the crux is that if we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot expect others to accept us too. Without any self-acceptance, we live in constant fear of being rejected.

Recently, I sat down to watch the movie, Wreck-it Ralph with my children. My children were having their school holidays and we had borrowed its DVD. Initially, I had found the plot rather slow moving. And so I was not paying full attention to it. But as the movie wore on, I discovered that there were valuable lessons on self-acceptance.

In the movie, Ralph had massive issues accepting that he needs to play the role of a villain in an arcade game. He wants to be the hero or the Good Guy, instead. His adventure eventually leads him to learn the important lesson that he is actually good enough.

Well, my children enjoyed the movie tremendously. They kept reciting the most quotable quote from the movie….

Wreck-It Ralph: I’m Bad, and that’s Good. I will never be Good and that’s not Bad. There’s no one I’d rather be, than me.

Reasons for Self-Rejection

The opposite of acceptance is rejection. If you do not accept yourself fully, you are implicitly rejecting some part about yourself. Any slight criticism from someone else can send your world crashing. You become very sensitive to what others say or think about you. With low self-acceptance, you are likely to experience massive insecurity, uncertainty and doubt.

Here are some common reasons for self-rejection:

- I am unable to accept my huge nose.
- I hate myself.
- I cannot accept that I have made a mistake.
- I cannot accept who I am.
- I am such a failure.
- I reject my looks.

Excessive self-rejection can contribute to outcomes such as self-mutilation, going for multiple plastic surgeries, bulimia, harboring suicidal thoughts and so on. It is only when you stop rejecting yourself that your ability to accept yourself increases.


From Rejection to Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance can be a horribly uphill battle when we are bombarded by messages promoting standards that are not easily attainable from where we are. Over time, it is possible to become less sure about ourselves when we repeatedly hear that we need an expensive sports car or that we need a bigger bust line, in order to feel complete. Hence, we cannot discount societal or environmental influences.

Where we do not have enough self-acceptance or self-love, we can possibly believe in these messages. We become more susceptible to the subliminal messages contained in some of the advertisements. Rather than blame external factors, it is our responsibility not to allow our environment affect us nonetheless.

An innate self-rejection results in the fear of rejection by others. We become inclined to create a self-image that we perceive as agreeable with others. Consequently, we try to do all we can to please others. However, our actions are largely driven by fear. We may appear to be confident on the outside but on the inside, we are really feeling unlovable.

On the contrary, with enough self-acceptance, we are not fretting over something fundamental about ourselves that we would like to change. We already feel complete even though we perceive that we are not perfect. We are willing to embrace ourselves – warts, faults and all. Self-acceptance paves the way for greater self-love.

With self-acceptance, we are at peace on the inside.

Self-Acceptance Healing Meditation

You can shift from rejection to acceptance via a healing meditation.

Listen to the audio on Self-Acceptance, which I have turned into a video, below. The audio comes from my Self-Love Healing Meditation Program, that gradually takes you from a space of resentment to radiant love.

Learn To Accept Yourself Fully

“The greatest success, is successful self acceptance.”- Ben Sweet

Self-acceptance centers you. It grounds you in the essence of who you really are. With self-acceptance, you build an unshakeable foundation from within.

It is not just through watching a movie. I feel that it is important to apply self-acceptance with my children too. I hope to let them know how accepted they are, even though they may fail in their spelling tests or come last for a swimming competition.

In the same manner, we should do the same for ourselves. When we meet with failure or are not as perfect as we would like to be, we start by being willing to accept ourselves. The willingness for self-acceptance opens the door to receiving self from the space of our spiritual heart. Through embracing ourselves lovingly on the inside, we become our own best friend.

Love and abundance always,

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Life Coach. Energy Healing Practitioner.

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Britt Reints June 3, 2013 at 11:05 pm

This is such an important message that needs to be repeated endlessly.

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Evelyn Reply:

Yes, I totally agree!

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn

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Steve June 9, 2013 at 10:58 pm

I love the way you include Wreck it Ralph in here. Self acceptance was such a big part of that movie. Personally, I think it can be hard for some people to accept who they are. We don’t always turn out the way we want, but kind of like how Ralph said in the movie, that doesn’t mean your bad.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Steve,

Glad you enjoyed the movie too :-) We learn best through stories.

Self-acceptance is not an easy thing for a lot of us. But if we can only slow down to discover who we are, we will find that we are not that bad at all!

Love and blessings,
Evelyn

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Genevieve Winters July 16, 2013 at 10:44 am

Just in case you’re wondering, it didn’t happen as quickly or as easily as this may sound. That leap took years of practice, of gently reminding myself that whatever I was feeling, whatever I was doing, I could accept that in that moment I was where I was. It took years and years of cultivating awareness, of being able to see when I took up the whip that I could also put it down again. Kindness, compassion, gentle reminders and acceptance, this is the road I have tried to stay on. As I said, this is very much a work in progress. Some call it a ‘practice’ because ‘work’ sounds difficult. My experience with acceptance has been that it is “work”. It is not easy for me. It does not come naturally. I have stumbled along the way. I continue to wander off at times, only to be brought back, gently, kindly and with compassion by others who are on the same path. It takes gentle reminders, many nonjudgmental nudges to move back onto the path of acceptance. But I have seen the light and know to follow it even when it grows dim.

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