Comments on: Experiencing Guilt Down Memory Lane

By: W

Wed, 24 Dec 2008 19:12:16 +0000

When people don’t believe in themselves, there is such thing as irrational guilt for something you haven’t done.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:01:56 +0000

@Lance, it is great that your initial guilt has turned into just a need for some reassurance. Truly there is no need to feel guilty because while you may not be near your family, your thoughts are with them. You are lucky to have a supportive wife.

@Paresh, thanks for your feedback.

@Monica, you’ve shared how you gave up guilt so beautifully!! On the contrary, many of us see it as a struggle and therefore, resist facing up to it.

@Jonathan, yes…if one feels a tinge that all is not positive and well, it warrants investigation. Growth happens in the discovery process!

By: Jonathan Mead

Jonathan Mead — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 19:59:09 +0000

Guilt and self-judgment is something so important for us to express and explore.

I think how much guilt you have is indicative of how you positively you feel about yourself.

By: Monica

Monica — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 17:06:16 +0000

What a great post and then followed by so many insightful comments!
What more can I say?
Clearing guilt out of my own life happened most smoothly when I surrendered to more love and acceptance about myself. It just seems to soften everything. It’s seems to me that finding ones true nature is a journey, and the more we understand our Self, the more we are able to let go.
Thank for another thoughtful post!

By: paresh

paresh — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 16:00:02 +0000

nice article. thanks for sharing.

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:56:36 +0000

Evelyn, this is a great topic to explore. We all carry guilt. And sometimes all we need is forgiveness. Other times, we maybe need reassurance.

For me, I had a time when I experienced guilt when I was working a lot, especially on weekends. Having small kids and my wife at home, I felt guilty that I was taking away time with them. Our kids are now a little older, and it’s not as bad. But I still have those feelings occasionally. For me, it has helped to have reassurance from my wife that it’s ok to be gone. And it has helped that I’ve found ways to work from home. But the key for me was reassurance.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 12:04:08 +0000

Hello PeaceLoveJoyBliss, thanks once again for your feedback. Before writing out this post (and reading your feedback), I was just thinking how nice it would be to continually publish about the nicer aspects of personal development like goal setting, positive thinking, affirmations and success principles. How nice it would be to be publishing more jokes and all. In fact, I wondered if doing so would up my reader subscription rate.

But I started to think No. I just could not keep silent about the more serious stuff and the nasty states that we put ourselves through. I write based on my personal experiences and through observations of others. And because I have chosen to face up to my demons, I do recognise how others are blinded into believing that guilt can be buried and forgotten.

So I’ve watched silently, noting that my friends need help. I offered some direction but it was refused. I could not do a thing if they preferred not to face their own fears.

Sigh…the only thing left for me to do is to write an article. I’m hoping that it can at least help someone out there in the world, who just may be more ready. So heck with writing more pleasing stuff for getting an increase in reader subscription rates!! I’d just write what I need to say!

Very much on the same journey to spiritual awareness,
Evelyn

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 11:24:08 +0000

@Barbara, I’m glad that you found the article useful. Yes, guilt is often unnecessary and self inflicted.

@Robert, it’s great that you took the step to sms your friend. Sometimes, this is all it takes just to release the guilt.

@Laurie, you’ve certainly got a great attitude! I cannot profess to having always viewed negative states like guilt in a positive manner. Do keep it up; the more we can learn from them, the more we grow!

By: Laurie | Express Yourself to Success

Laurie | Express Yourself to Success — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 10:08:04 +0000

Your five points are great to look at how we let guilt over past experiences express itself in our lives today. I’m going to reflect more on these.

While I’m guilty of feeling guilty, I try to approach each day understanding that part of my learning process is to make mistakes and the ones that I make today teach me how to be better tomorrow.

By: Robert A. Henru

Robert A. Henru — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 09:39:35 +0000

I agreed so much with the confessing part to release guilt. Recently, my indecisiveness got someone in trouble again. He mentioned today that he is very dissapointed, and I got to carry that guilt baggage for quite some time. I’m getting very disappointed with myself, and eventually I SMS-ed him to say sorry. That really helps me to release the guilt.

Thanks for such an encouragement!
Robert