I have been dealing with my fear of spirits for two weeks already. My guess is that my fears surfaced due to two reasons. For one, I have reached deeper layers of meditation and the second is that the fear took the chance to surface when my husband was away. As I meditated late into the wee hours of the morning, it crept back. Knowing that I was alone intensified my fears.
I have always been afraid of the dark since young. Horror stories of ghastly spirits pretty much scared me out of my wits. I could not watch gory movies and did not relish scaring myself silly either. I also suffered badly from insomnia, when my mind just refused to rest. Into the night, as I lay tossing on my bed, my imagination would then take hold of me. It got even harder to fall asleep as I played out every imaginable scene from horror movies.
I met up with my therapist when I just could not seem to have a major breakthrough in using EFT tapping on myself. The fear of spirits is tied to the fear of death, she said. I related that my fear probably had its origins from my grandfather’s death. I was around 10-12 then. He had passed away due to lung cancer from years of heavy smoking. Drinking also had not helped his health.
My grandmother insisted that he be given the traditional Taoist funeral. There were superstitious beliefs that we were made to go through. According to Taoist beliefs, the soul or the spirit of the dead would come back to visit after 7 days, amongst others. I was intensely frightened. This was my first encounter with death in the family. No one took the time to explain things to me. I did not know what to believe in or even whether the beliefs had any basis. Since that time, my fears would play up. I got afraid of the dark. I suffered from years, with having to live with this fear.
I did a round of EFT tapping during my therapy session. My therapist also determined that somehow, my fears have also been blocking my abundance. My fears went down to zero, with the tapping. I thought I felt better that day, after the session, as I left her home.
However, strangely, I continued to have to battle my fears every night. Sure…my fears were not as intense as they were the first time they surfaced two weeks ago. But I had remaining fears that went on every night until two days ago.
My husband had come home and he decided to help me. He said that it could be that there was something else that I have not addressed. So when it was time to go to bed, he suggested that we try to target whatever remaining fear there was.
I was exhausted from two weeks of little sleep and did not have the energy to tap myself. So he proceeded to do surrogate EFT tapping for me. He pictured me in his mind and then asked me to imagine my fear.
I decided to face my fear of spirits by picturing my grandfather once again. Instead of battling this time, I told myself to just let go and see what would arise. With my eyes closed, I soon “saw” him in my mind. For some reason, my tears started to flow. I burst out crying. I realised that I had blocked out my grief for the longest time. Fear had so gripped me that I had failed to connect with the love that I felt for him. That night, in my mind, I acknowledged his love for me. I recalled that he had a particular fondness for me ever since I was born. He had demonstrated love for me, by buying me plenty of presents, and was ever so concerned for me. I proceeded to send him love energy, imagining us holding hands bathed in light, knowing no fear.
My tears continued to flow. I opened my eyes. My husband was still doing surrogate EFT tapping for me, even while he noticed my tears. I felt a sense of release, a sort of closure. It was a major breakthrough. I slept well the last two nights.
For some strange reasons, once yesterday and once again today, I came across this poem from two unrelated places…it struck a chord….
“Don’t stand by my grave and weep,
For I am not there.
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond’s glint on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.
In the soft hush of the morning light
I am the swift bird in flight.
Don’t stand by my grave and cry,
I am not there,
I did not die.
— Unknown Native American Author
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Dear Evelyne,
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Sile
Evelyn, my dear one,
As usual, you have a gift for describing your feelings. Allowing us to personally grasp the details of your wondrous victory over your fears as your love energy connected you and grandfather with fond remembrances. Isn’t EFT just the perfect answer to our problems?
The poem has been one of my favorite epitaphs for many years. It seems to have more meaning as time slips away. I would wish it to be on my headstone, as a reminder that death is only the beginning, not the end.
Much Love & Light,
James
Hi,
What a wonderful poem, I really liked it. Your story is another proof of the need of persistence in EFT. You’re “lucky” that your husband also is en EFT-er and could help you in such a powerful way. An inspiring story, thank you.
Eva
Thank you, Sile, for pointing out yet another empowering tool. I will go and check it out.
Also, thanks to all who have enjoyed reading my sharing. I had initially thought I should not even reveal what I was going through. It might not appear to be “acceptable”. What would people think? Fear of spirits tied to abundance issues? I can even hear sniggering in the distance.
But somehow, after coming across the same poem twice, the words of what to write just flowed. It was no longer a consideration of whether or not to write my experiences.
Yes…the poem is beautiful. It has “awakened” me on several levels.
Much love and light to everyone,
Evelyn
Hi,
I have this fear of spirits and since i have to work alone at night, it is affecting me very badly ill i am losing interest in other activities.
Please help me. Thank You
Hi,
I have been reading all your material from your site and your mails. I found it really very interesting and useful. Thanks for making all people aware of Law Of Attraction (LOA) in simple and use friendly words. I need you help on something.
I have read most of your articles on LOA from your site. The LOA says that you manifest what you think. I have this weird fear of losing my near and dear ones all of a sudden, though nothing of that sort has happened. But being very overprotective about my loved ones, while thinking positively, while visualising myself enjoying my life fully with my loved ones, all of a sudden I start seeing all these weird negative things, which insantly shifts my positive energy to negative and I get disturbed. The more I try to ignore those thoughts and pictures, the more they come to my mind and I get stuck in between. I get scared because of this, since LOA is constantly working, consiously, uncounsciously. I want my loved ones to be always there with me, just like others.
Please help me out with how can I overcome these thoughts with EFT and what should I do? While thining positively and negatively at the same time, how does LOA work in that case? Should I get scared if any negative thought comes to my mind, while visualising a beautiful positive picture, or it does not affect much, if we start thinking positive again.
It would be really helpful if you would reply to my query. Thank in advance.
I have one question regarding life. With the help of LOA, we have the power to do anything with the right application of all the techniques and mindset. I would like to know, just out of curiosity, whether with the help of LOA or EFT for that matter, can we control ours or anybody’s span/duration of life, I mean to say can we decide when to leave our body/when to separate our soul from our body once for all?
While reading the articles of LOA, this question came into my mind, so I thought I should get it cleared by you. Your expert opinion on the same is really appreciated. Thanks again for your genuine efforts towards transforming our lives positively!
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